It has been reported that Millennials are very socially progressive. According to a 2017 Pew Research survey, most Millennials support liberal views on abortion, sex, the death penalty and other issues. However their personal actions indicate a desire for other traditional paradigms. At Brown University, 75% of students said they wanted to be in a committed, monogamous relationship. Only 12% of Brown students were regularly hooking up with more than one partner. The same was true at Stanford, where 86% of students wanted to be in a committed relationship. Among affluent Americans, marriage is still desired. College-educated women and men marry at traditional rates, and divorce at half the rate of people without a degree. The most elite circles of American life are the most critical of traditional living; yet they are some of the most traditional in their own life choices. Affluent women have resources that help them make good life choices. But many women need help because of lack of support from family or significant others. CareNet is here to help them with emotional support and solutions to real life problems. All women deserve an opportunity to experience God’s plan for a flourishing life. CareNet exists to help women and their families do just that.
The blockbuster movie of the summer appears to be Christopher Nolan’s “Dunkirk”. The WWII story of the rescue by sea of an entire British army facing annihilation by the Nazis has captured the hearts of many Americans. The facts are simple. On May 10th, 1940, Hitler ordered a military onslaught on France and Belgium that resulted in the British Army and other Allied soldiers having their backs to the sea and being surrounded by German troops. Facing certain death, the order was given to attempt an evacuation by sea. Eight Hundred ships sailed to the coast of France and rescued 338,000 soldiers from the beaches, returning them to Britain. It is less well known that a week before the rescue, King George VI requested that the following Sunday be observed as a National Day of Prayer, as the country was dealing with the upcoming annihilation of so many troops. Photographs confirm that many people went to church and congregations and cathedrals were filled with people beseeching God for the deliverance of these troops. Their prayers were answered, and later that week the miracle of rescue occurred. What do we learn from this story? Certainly the Dunkirk story encourages Christians to pray to our God of rescue. CareNet is a ministry devoted to the power of prayer. Our staff prays for one another, for those we serve, for strength and for wisdom. We know that it is only God who can change a heart bent on abortion. What a blessing to serve in his mission to rescue children and empower moms.
In the wake of the Charlie Gard case, the Federalist posted an article on the need for states to implement “Simon’s Law,” to prevent such a case from occurring in the US. At issue is parental authority—who makes the decision for life or death in such tragic circumstances. The article talks about an infant, Simon Crosier, and his family. Simon, like Charlie, was born with a serious congenital illness that required life-sustaining medical treatment. His condition was quickly labeled “incompatible with life” by the medical personnel treating him and, unknown to his parents, a DNR order was placed in his medical chart. The parents were hoping that as he grew, Simon would be eligible for corrective heart surgery. This did not happen. Instead, after Simon’s death, his parents learned that only “comfort feeds” had been authorized, thus ensuring his death. Simon’s Law, passed by the state of Kansas, sought primarily to combat the trend of medical providers secretly placing DNR orders on the medical charts of seriously ill infants. In Simon’s case, the medical personnel made the decision that Simon’s life was not worth living, and that any further medical treatment was futile. Many times in our culture, people make the judgment that the child of an unplanned pregnancy will suffer from abuse or other hardship. This belief is often used as a reason for tolerating abortion. But just as in the cases of Charlie and Simon, all life should be given a chance. Our culture will be judged in future generations by how we treated those among us who were the most vulnerable. Certainly, we who follow Christ have a duty to protect “the least of these.” God bless you for your witness.
The recent case of little Briton Charlie Gard, whose parents fought to provide him with experimental medical treatment to correct a congenital defect, has raised some interesting questions. In this case, the English courts ruled over the pleas of the parents that Charlie’s breathing tube should be removed so he could “die with dignity”. Charlie’s parents wanted to give him every chance they could at life, but were overruled by the courts. Questions have been raised about the decision-making capacity of parents. Who should make these decisions over life and death, parents or government? In certain cults, members do not believe in using medicine; yet a court may come in and force parents to seek medical treatment for their children. In the abortion debate, it has long been argued that abortion is an absolute right of parents and that government has no place in limiting the ability of the mother to choose that outcome for her child. Our culture has largely accepted mothers choosing abortion. Yet CareNet exists to challenge that choice. Through compassion and resourcing, with love, we challenge moms to reexamine their decision and empower them to choose life. Many women facing an unplanned pregnancy believe abortion is their only choice, because they just can’t do it alone. CareNet gives them hope and says, “Yes you can. We are here to help.” It is a privilege to serve in a life-affirming ministry that has given hope to so many.
In June it was reported that a young Irish woman who was almost 25 weeks pregnant had requested an abortion, claiming that the pregnancy made her suicidal. The Irish 2013 Protection of Life in Pregnancy Act allows abortion when the woman is deemed to be suicidal or at risk of loss of life from physical illness. Her request was denied, because her psychiatrist ruled that abortion was not the solution to her problems. The Irish press ran the young girl’s story implying that the reason that the abortion was denied was that the psychiatrist did not approve of the procedure and obviously the law should be changed to allow a woman to make that choice for herself. Subsequently, a panel of experts overrode the psychiatrist and ruled that the pregnant woman could have the abortion. But good news: after developing a strong bond with her doctor, the young woman chose to carry her child. She and her baby are now living happily with her family. Of course, the media has not covered this part of the story. This story reflects the work of CareNet. When vulnerable pregnant women are given caring support, decisions change and babies are born. This scene is found every day in CareNet’s counseling rooms. Thank you for helping to make that possible.
In a recent article in the Federalist, Daniel Payne commented on witnessing the birth of his son. He had seen the ultrasound, thoroughly grasped the biology, and been by his wife’s side through labor, but he was not prepared for what he saw. “The one second there was nothing in my wife’s arms, the next here was a baby boy, pink and healthy and beautiful and priceless. For one of the few times in my life I was rendered speechless, and properly so. What do you say, after all, when you witness a miracle.” Payne is amazed that simple nutrients, enzymes, lipids and nucleic acids can produce a baby boy. “A few months ago I packed my wife an egg salad sandwich for lunch, and her body used that egg salad to help create our beautiful baby boy. What is a miracle, if not that?” CareNet counselors shine light into dark places, helping women understand that what they have inside of them is not just a clump of cells, but another miracle clothed in flesh. CareNet’s medical team helps a woman visualize her child, seeing a heartbeat and watching her little miracle move and dance. No woman who chose to carry her pregnancy has ever come back to say what a mistake it was. However, many women who chose abortion have expressed their regrets. Life is a miracle designed by God. Let us treasure this great gift.
Jackson Women’s Health Organization is the last remaining abortion clinic in the state of Mississippi, a fact bemoaned by many people wanting greater access to abortion. When the Center for Pregnancy Choices (CPC) opened a center across the street from the abortion clinic, New York Magazine reported that the new center would lure and lie “to persuade women into their center instead, often claiming that their centers can offer the services they may need.” The truth is that CPC offers free ultrasound and real choice, something that is not lost on women. Ashleigh, a woman who went to a central Ohio pregnancy center for help, stated, “When I went there, the lady there was 100 percent non-judgmental and my decision wasn’t going to make them any profit. That’s what I was looking for, someone to talk to who wasn’t going to profit off me or my baby.” CareNet has no financial interest in a woman’s choice. Our counselors present a woman with all of her options, encouraging her to think through each one and follow her heart. Our skilled team identifies obstacles and explores solutions, offering real help to women in need. That’s real choice!
Maddi Runkles was a straight-A student, athlete, and student council president at Heritage Academy, a private Christian school in Boonsboro, Maryland. The unplanned pregnancy that revealed her violation of the school’s morality code resulted in Maddi’s suspension, removal from the student council, and prohibition from “walking” during graduation. Maddi’s story demonstrates the conflicts that many Christian schools face. How do we maintain the principles of a pro-life position (giving life to the baby) and maintain the principles of sexual ethics and conduct? Julie Roys, host of Moody Radio’s Up For Debate, offered: “Christians often fall into one of two ditches when dealing with sin in their own communities. Either we completely overlook it and err on the side of compromising holiness—or we fail to forgive, punish harshly, and miss the heart of the gospel. What’s needed is a proper view of biblical discipline—a practice that seeks to restore and heal, not wound and punish.” While we are grieved by our culture’s misuse of God’s best gifts and plans for his creation, women who come to CareNet are always loved unconditionally. CareNet counselors focus on sharing the truth in love, meeting real needs, and finding solutions that empower a young woman to give life to her child. In the process, lives are radically changed. In the end, the glory belongs to God.
On July 19th, Federal Court Judge Kapala from the U.S. District Court for Northern Illinois granted a preliminary injunction against the enforcement of Public Act 99-690 that required physicians and other health care personnel to give patients written information and referrals for medical procedures the health care professional finds objectionable. This Act amended the Illinois Healthcare Right of Conscience Act (HCRCA) and attempted to force Christian medical personnel who objected to abortion to refer a patient to an abortion facility, a violation of the Free Speech Clause of the First Amendment.
If enforced, this statute would require pregnancy centers that employ medical personnel, such as CareNet, to refer women for abortion. Pregnancy centers not complying with the law would be subject to exorbitant fines and even closure. “This injunction is a victory for women and the pregnancy help movement,” said Barbara Singer, President of CareNet Pregnancy Services of DuPage. “CareNet will not be intimidated into referring vulnerable women to abortion facilities. CareNet has never had nor ever will have a policy of sending women to abortionists. Pregnant women deserve the compassion, love and help that pregnancy centers offer and as this case moves forward, we are confident that the courts will find this law unconstitutional and restore the religious liberty protection to Christian medical personnel granted in the First Amendment.”
CareNet operates four pregnancy help centers in the DuPage County area, in Wood Dale, Elmhurst, Naperville and Glen Ellyn, that offer free services including ultrasound to pregnant women in need. A fifth center in West Chicago is scheduled to open this year. For more information about CareNet, visit CarenetDupage.com. For help with a pregnancy, contact PregnantHelp.com.
Sanya Richards-Ross is a U.S. track and field athlete. She has won numerous gold medals through her career and has consistently described herself as an avid Christian. But behind the sports headlines is another story. In 2008, prior to competing in the 2008 Olympics, she had an abortion. In her recent book, Chasing Grace: What the Quarter Mile Has Taught Me about God and Life, Sanya talks about the pressures of unplanned pregnancy and the emotional pain following an abortion decision. “The culmination of a lifetime of work was right before me. In that moment, it seemed like no choice at all. The debate of when life begins swirled through my head, and the veil of a child out of wedlock at the prime of my career seemed unbearable. What would my sponsors, my family, my church, and my fans think of me?” Her then fiancé, now husband, Aaron Ross, cornerback for the New York Giants, neither agreed nor opposed Sanya’s abortion decision. Now 9 years later, Ross is pregnant again and excited to become a mom, but the pain of abortion still lingers. “Abortion would now forever be a part of my life. A scarlet letter I never thought I’d wear. I was a champion and not just an ordinary one, but a world-class, record-breaking champion. From the heights of that reality I fell into a depth of despair.” Aaron is just as burdened by the abortion decision as Sanya. “He believes that our child in 2008 was a blessing we had rejected by always wanting to be in control.” Abortion is a decision that causes lasting wounds. If you or someone you know needs help, contact CareNet’s Restore After Abortion program at 630.599.0043. Help is available.